When you enter therapy you might feel miserable, desperate and alone. There may be a sense of failure that you have to do this. But you are in for a pleasant surprise, because although the journey through won’t be smooth sailing, the benefits you will experience will be incredible. Not only will you feel so much better about everything in your life and within yourself, you will learn so much! And this learning is something you can use to help others for the rest of your life. You will be able to connect to others in a way that you couldn’t before because of how you have changed and what you have learned. Instead of being stressed and anxious so much of the time, you will feel at peace with things and confident to take the steps forward and to do the things you want to do in your life. Also if you see the process through to completion it is unlikely you will need medication such as anti-depressants or Valium. You’ll be able to live a drug free life which is so much better for your body.
Before I went on holiday I admit I was stressed. Weighed down under the weight of business, chores, errands, finances, family, and work. I think I’d lie awake most nights stressing about everything and wondering how I’d gotten to this point with all I know about psychology and self -care etc. Luckily, my holiday was like the intervention I needed. The distance from my life situation helped me to see and decide that I didn’t want to continue living this way and then I realised that I had a choice about that.
For those of you who don’t know me, I’m a city girl born and bred.. You know the deal, grew up in Hawthorn, private school and University of Melbourne educated uber privileged lifestyle etc But all this priviledge didn’t stop me from being touched by mental health issues. Hence wanting to be a psychologist. Anyway, you’d think being a city girl I’d have no problem going to work in Collins street. That’s why I cried for half of the trip on their yesterday. After being close to home in the hills for the past 10 years to be there for my children, making this choice has been a huge mental shift for me and massively daunting, especially when I have to build the practice up from scratch. So my trip in yesterday was purely about facing this fear. And I want to be a role model for you because so many women struggle with fears around following their dreams. I want you to look at me and think, if she can do it, so can I… The world needs you to follow your dreams so you can share your gifts with the world
After all the output I’ve done around helping others with their perfectionism I have recently been to a therapist to get some help with emotional eating. Within one session she has told me I am still a perfectionist. So for the author of Killing the perfectionist within, someone who has helped millions of people with their own perfectionism based on my own journey of beating it, this was a bit of a kick in the guts.
I still push myself too hard and get tired.
I’m still struggling to get the balance right
I still feel not good enough at times
I still feel upset if I’m not the ‘perfect’ body weight.
However there is a difference….
Maybe I’ll never been able to fully ‘Kill’ the perfectionist within, but i can certainly ‘manage’ it.
(Honor is a psychologist that helps women take the pressure off themselves- to book in for a free consultation click the book now button on her home page.
I love this piece of writing, for me it really captures the beauty of taking time out for oneself in the midst of a hectic lifestyle: