As you probably know I’ve been writing blogs on perfectionism for a while now. Last year my daughter who is now 8 years old was having some issues at school and perfectionism was raised as a cause for some of her meltdowns. She has to go and see the school art therapist for a while. During this time I immediately went into failure mode thinking oh I can’t even stop my daughter getting perfectionism when I’m supposed to be the expert on treating it. I must be a poor parent/role model etc. I felt a lot of guilt for a long time despite knowing it wasn’t helpful. It was really difficult to let it go.
Category: Children Therapy
“To will to be that self which one truly is, is indeed the opposite of despair” — the despair of choosing “to be another than himself”. – Kierkegaard.
I read a ton of parenting books in my spare time so I thought I’d share with you part of a chapter I think is fantastic. It is on creative discipline with children. I think it is relevant from at least 18 months of age. Creative discipline is about teaching kids the right way to behave in a positive manner, rather than will the usual: “no don’t do that” or “Stop that” type of technique. In her book Happy Child, Happy home Lou Harvey-Zahra offers 10 creative discipline techniques. I’ll share three here in a brief format.
Interesting article about the nature of the mother daughter relationship: