“Would you like to go to the movies with me?”
Sandra bit her lip; she was NOT attracted to him in any way and was fairly sure this invitation was a ‘date’.
“Um yeah…….ok………..sure”, she responded.
“Great! I’ll pick you up at 7 o’clock this Saturday night”
Sandra felt a lump forming in her stomach. Actually make those two lumps, one in her throat and one in her stomach. She really did NOT want to go on this date. Her whole body was screaming at her to get out of it. Yet she had said yes, for fear of offending him or making him feel rejected. She wanted to save his feelings. Somewhere along the line they had become more important than hers…
In the 2008 movie ‘The Yes Man’ the main character Carl (Jim Carrey) is a person who, to the frustration of his friends and colleagues, says’ no’ to absolutely everything – dinner invitations, social events, people applying for loans at his work etc. Saying no all the time makes his life safe and comfortable, yet empty, lonely and dull. He spends every Saturday night at the video shop and rents movies to watch alone in his apartment whilst ignoring calls from his best friend to come out and socialise. It is implied that his compulsive nay saying has something to do with a depression he is in after a marriage breakup. However, one day he bumps into an old acquaintance who gives him a flyer to a ‘say yes to life’ seminar which he goes to. This seminar is of a self- help cult like bent and the speaker intimidates Carl into agreeing to say yes to absolutely every opportunity or else.