Everybody knows a perfectionist right? He or she is that person that has a lot of pressure on themselves to do everything to an extremely high standard. They can be wonderful but also extremely infuriating to the non-perfectionist. They can be infuriating for a number of reasons. Let me explain:
Hi all, we are nearly at the end of winter, I can start to smell fresh flowers in the air. I often feel a little bit re-born when spring comes around as it is a time of new beginnings after the naturally reflective time of winter.
This winter I have been reflecting on what I can offer you in my practice… In this newsletter I often write about the commons themes that are coming up for people in their counselling sessions. What has been coming up a lot lately is a tendency to be perfectionistic. This often involves not allowing your-self to make a mistake, having extremely high standards for yourself and feeling anxious and having copious amounts of guilt. Perfectionism can also cause depression, is a high risk factor for post-natal depression and is something that can be caused by – the way we were parented, our culture and perhaps some traumatic experience you have experienced. The good news is there is plenty of help available to move past this state.
So I’ll share one tip with you here: managing guilt: