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Benefits of isolation

I went into semi lock down just after Christmas, before all this hit.

Things just moved out of my life to give me space for deep healing. As a self proclaimed co-dependent ive always been afraid of being alone but I took this as a challenge.

Being in solitude has taught me a lot –

firstly I realised I really enjoyed it! How fascinating to realise you enjoy something you have been scared of and running away from your whole life! So liberating!

I wanted to get into touch with my intuition and inner voice so I took time off from people, social media and books etc for 24 hours. Id notice a pattern of feeling fine, then bad, then I’d release a stored emotion and then feel fine again, pretty much like what happens in every day life except you have all your responsibilities to deal with on top of this.

With solitude there was just clear space to witness this process of inner release.

I also had full attention for great ideas to surface within me. (Im always down loading ideas to the point its weird when Im not)
Anyway, the universe literally created space for me to go deep – to heal and let go of things I had been carrying for a life time so they weren’t weighing me down any more and to let me move to the next level.

I know I’m on an important global healing mission but I cannot uplevel until I’m strong enough to handle it.

That’s means letting go of a lot of shit that’s not serving me, and a disempowered identity ive been holding on too way too long.
I started to understand who I am at a core, and why my so called ‘perfect’ life – husband, house, kids literally exploded out from under my nose a few years ago.

It was time to move on.

Its time to move on people, time to heal, time to uplevel.

Time to exist in a more enlightened planet. Lets explode through the old paradigm of patriarchy and scarcity.

Its time for a global healing revolution.

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WE ARE LIVING IN ONE OF THE MOST EXCITING TIMES IN HUMAN HISTORY

ARE YOU AWARE THAT YOU ARE LIVING IN ONE OF THE MOST EXCITING TIMES IN HUMAN HISTORY?

Just have a look backwards – women have been oppressed, beaten raped tortured medicated and locked up for thousands of years – treated like shit and then labelled as crazy.Myself included – this stuff has been going on for ages and its still going on.

BUT this is one of the most exciting times in human history- we are in a healthcare revolution and an information age – which provides an opportunity for women to rise back to full power.

Society is developing better and better treatments for mental health issues, having less tolerance for violence against women, and taking us way more seriously when we say we have been harrassed or violated.

The internet has helped us have a voice. To reach and teach each other.

We have an opportunity to live our fullest lives free from oppression and abuse. its happening! the feminine is rising. That means YOU!!

The ground is fertile – you are ready. All we needy to do is remove the negative programming that has kept us small and robbed us of our amazing and beautiful powers.

My role is to help you remove that programming, to get you in the right mindset to live your fullest life.

I have been chosen as a leader of this movement.

Let me help you You are ready and you are worth it

EMAIL ME OR BOOK A TIME WITH ME me for more info on how to wok together to live your best life. We have been waiting thousands of years for this opportunity. The time is NOW.

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I adore the feminine..

I adore the feminine…

This is why i do this work…

Because the feminine is so fun, sexy, erotic, wild, beautiful and free..

I want to see more women stepping into this, because its who we are at our core…

We have just forgotten so

Lets remember..

That deep down we long to be wild…

not stuck in a house, office or kitchen all the time..

nor on the computer…

But running through hills, dancing til dawn, picking flowers,singing dancing, loving til it hurts…

We are so full of love

I encourage you to let her out

your inner wild woman

what does she need?

to cry? to dance? to hug?

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Honor Jane Newman

Psychologist and Author

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Honor Talks to radio host Toni Lontis about perfectionism and well-being

https://www.iheart.com/podcast/209-radio-toni-31175298/

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Honor Jane Newman

Psychologist and Author

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I had a dream last night I want to tell you about…

I had a dream last night I want to tell you about.

You see I’ve found this personal development course that i really, desperately want to do next year.

But it costs a lot for me.

I know its what I need and will help me move forward in life.

But I’m struggling to make the commitment and to put myself as a priority over all those bills I have..

but i’m going to find the money, I’m going to find a way

the dream was that i was going to miss out on a spot int his course and i scrambled through all my piles of money and scraped it together just. in. time.

It was terrifying to hand over all that money.

but even more scary was staying stuck where I am for an indefinite amount of time.

That would suck.

So i will trust that i;m in and everything will be ok.

because i need this.

I wanted to share this because as women we can really struggle to make our needs a priority. Even when we hear the siren call. And our heart strings yearning out for something on our journey.

This course is about taking my self esteem to the next level. The one thing holing me back.

I created this space because i wanted women to have a private space to share anything. Its important to have space away from the opposite sex. Just as they need time away from us.

Anyway – what finally made me say YES to this commitment to myself?

Its because I view my personal and spiritual needs as just as important as food shelter air and water.

Rather be homeless and happy than suicidal in a mansion.

Hopefully not that extreme but you get what I mean…

So – I’m gonna Do this!!!!

Even though its terrifying, its an investment in me and my well being. Say yes felt like falling anxiously into the unknown the question in my mind being – will i fail or soar?

but i owe it to myself to try and make things better for me. I’m worth it.

Ive been through too much to let myself down by saying no.

It will help me to be more successful and happier but i have to be willing to take the risk – that leap of faith.

I’m excited.

the more i heal the more life just gets better and better.

What about you?

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Or if you want to go deeper you can book a one on one  here

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Honor Jane Newman

Psychologist and Author

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Would you like to improve your financial situation?

Many of us struggle with money. It  helps to realise it’s a relationship.  You can talk to money, write it a letter.  Say how you feel about it, repair your relationship with it.

 

Dear Money,

I’ve been feeling a bit abandoned by you lately.

Have I blocked you?

Have I given you mixed messages? I so, I’m sorry.

I’ve had some issues.

I’m working on myself so we can have a better relationship.

Because it would be great to have consistency together, and to support each other to soar to greater and greater heights.

I see you love me and want to support me.

I get scare when you are not around sometimes.

I need to understand you don’t abandon me, its just that sometimes I block you.

Because in interpret the times you flow back as abandonment and I feel hurt and rejected.

I need to understand that you are always there, even if you move back for these short periods.

I need to trust this, its flow like the tide, forward and backward, not abandonment.

You never really leave.

Thank you for everything you ever provided me.

I trust you will always be there I just need to allow you in fully.

It can feel really scary.

So I’ll wait and trust and be happy and enjoy you coming to me and receive you with love an gratitude.

Thank you,

Are you following your own path, or doing what you ‘should’ do?

I have written about this before but I feel it is such an important topic I want to write about it again. The gap between doing what society expects us to do versus what is right for us to do with our lives.  Think about where you sit for a minute…toeing the socially acceptable line can be unconscious for many years until something is not working any more – it could be experienced as a dull ache of unfufillment or boredom or a more severe depression.  It can take a while to unravel where we have stepped off our own path and onto a proscribed one.  I believe one of the problems is being taught to listen more to our head than our hearts and emotions when making choices. Also it takes courage to stand up and say -this is what I want when all around you think its nuts. However this is the nature of dreams –they are really personal and unique and a lot of the times other people just won’t ‘get’ it. The wise and caring ones will listen and try to understand and the others will shake their heads and judge.  This is another reason we hold ourselves back – the pain of being judged. Yes it hurts. It can hurt a lot. But should we let this hold us back from pursuing our deepest dreams and desires?  WE need to believe we are important enough to prioritize our own happiness regardless of what others think. Yes it can be lonely at times but I believe its ok to be lonely at times.  It is just another part of being in the rich tapestry of life. I always believe its good to start small also – whats one thing you’ve always wanted to do but have been too afraid? Can you take one tiny step towards this? It will feel terrifying and exhilarating and you’ll feel truly alive.

‘Life is (often) what happens when you are making other plans’ What life is vs what we expect

Has your life turned out exactly as you expected or close to? If yes, are you happy with that?

Or has life thrown you curve balls you never saw coming? Some of which were good some not so good?

Have you been given advice and gone against your better judgement only to regret it later?

Ever fall in love? Were you planning it? Or did it hit you out of nowhere when you least expected it?

Buddhism teaches us that expectations can be dangerous because they set us up for disappointment.  The Dharma teachings include the practicing the art of keeping an open mind, expecting nothing and embracing what-ever life offers as a lesson. I love this.

As we move deeper into adulthood we can get very set in our idea of the way life ‘should’ be.  This is a result of years and years of cultural conditioning from various spheres of influence and can be very deep. However, it can be damaging to never attempt to question these ideas and ‘shoulds’ as holding onto rigid beliefs can really limit our growth, cause us to lose our spontaneity, openness to experience and zest for life. It can also cause us to project these limitations onto those around us.

For these reasons time in quiet solitude can be a magical thing. This helps us to hear our own truth in silence and gives us a break from listening to the influences of everyone around us. Because people are generally well meaning but love to have an opinion, sometimes strongly about how things should go and although this may be valid and logical it may very well not be right for you.

So I encourage you to make space to really listen to your own thoughts and emotions in quiet. Sometimes these can be quite scary and hard to sit with but if we remind ourselves they are just thoughts and emotions and we don’t have to act on them this can make them easier to embrace xx

I hope you can have the courage to listen and follow your own truth in life.

Love Honor xx

 

 

 

Its okay to not always know where you are going…

Recently my brother gave me a birthday voucher to go and lie in one of those flotation tanks for an hour then have a shiatsu massage. I stepped out of this experience all calm, peaceful and ‘floaty’ into the middle of little Bourke Street.  I then instantly came face to face with all these people with serious looks on their faces striding around really purposefully.  They were going to the opposite way to me, I had no idea where I was heading in that moment and was totally okay with that.

Lets extend this metaphor to life.  How many of us fill up our days with busy work and things that seem important? How many of us just get way too serious? Or way too weighed down with things? What do we do to make ourselves lighter? How do we help ourselves laugh?  Do we really need to be accountable for every single minute of our lives?

What about if we just wander for a bit…Remember how as a teenager you used to day dream? How you felt such joy in just being alive? we can lose that in adulthood with all our responsibilities..

I think its okay to not always have a plan. Sometimes we do need to just float for a bit and be open to new experiences and see where life takes us….This is where some of the most beautiful fruits of life will  be. So lets open up to a bit more spontaneity and enjoy the rewards it brings.

Love Honor xx

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