‘Life is (often) what happens when you are making other plans’ What life is vs what we expect
Has your life turned out exactly as you expected or close to? If yes, are you happy with that?
Or has life thrown you curve balls you never saw coming? Some of which were good some not so good?
Have you been given advice and gone against your better judgement only to regret it later?
Ever fall in love? Were you planning it? Or did it hit you out of nowhere when you least expected it?
Buddhism teaches us that expectations can be dangerous because they set us up for disappointment. The Dharma teachings include the practicing the art of keeping an open mind, expecting nothing and embracing what-ever life offers as a lesson. I love this.
As we move deeper into adulthood we can get very set in our idea of the way life ‘should’ be. This is a result of years and years of cultural conditioning from various spheres of influence and can be very deep. However, it can be damaging to never attempt to question these ideas and ‘shoulds’ as holding onto rigid beliefs can really limit our growth, cause us to lose our spontaneity, openness to experience and zest for life. It can also cause us to project these limitations onto those around us.
For these reasons time in quiet solitude can be a magical thing. This helps us to hear our own truth in silence and gives us a break from listening to the influences of everyone around us. Because people are generally well meaning but love to have an opinion, sometimes strongly about how things should go and although this may be valid and logical it may very well not be right for you.
So I encourage you to make space to really listen to your own thoughts and emotions in quiet. Sometimes these can be quite scary and hard to sit with but if we remind ourselves they are just thoughts and emotions and we don’t have to act on them this can make them easier to embrace xx
I hope you can have the courage to listen and follow your own truth in life.
Love Honor xx